Sexual aftercare after gambling can vary greatly
We decided to write this blog together as a topic for discussion. People who engage with kinks and fetishes online rarely address certain topics, but one of the most important is aftercare. Online gaming may not seem that intense on the surface, but it is a very vulnerable area. We wanted to tackle this topic together and share insights from our personal experiences with online gaming.
When is aftercare necessary?
It doesn’t matter what your experience level in these playstyles is. Aftercare is a way to get back to a baseline state. Even if you’ve been humiliated for 10 years, aftercare is an opportunity to reconnect with reality and reorient yourself. Sexual relations and submission require aftercare. The intensity and type of play you take part in will determine your need for aftercare. Maybe you want to be praised and reassured that you are a worthy person. Physical contact may be required. Maybe you need to eat, drink, or treat bruises from a hard or long spanking session. Everyone has different needs.
Create a safe space
BDSM play styles and fetishes are not just about whips, chains, and control. When we engage in humiliating and degrading fetishes, the main thing is to give up control of the sexual relationship. Giving up control and being dominant in a sexual relationship and putting the submissive “in his place” is a form of emotional and mental liberation. It allows the submissive to take the lead and surrender to the sexual relationship. This eroticizes the shame and insecurities the submissive may harbor in the real world and gives them a safe space to explore and feel those emotions. Often this kind of play can give them physical relief. They may feel relaxed being in a submissive position because they have let go of their need for control or leadership.
A sexual relationship should not take this for granted. A sexual relationship needs to know how much trust you have built with your submissive partner. After all, a sexual relationship puts the submissive in a very vulnerable position from the start. The ability to push someone to rock bottom and control their emotions and mental state is a huge responsibility and should be treated as such. After you have enjoyed degrading and humiliating your subordinate, it is important to bring him back to a basic level where he feels comfortable and in control of his life again. The effects of humiliation or demeaning should be temporary. It is the responsibility of the sexual relationship to control and lift the submissive out of the deep emotional and mental space that this type of play provides. What kind of aftercare the subordinate expects will be determined by his personal needs. Sexual aftercare after gambling can vary greatly from a sub’s needs. Some may only need a little. Simply asking how they’re feeling may be enough.
Conclusion
Everyone can use aftercare with peace of mind. Aftercare can be routine or spontaneous. Both are welcome. Everyone has different needs. It is important to cater to everyone’s needs and provide everyone with a safe place to experience their vulnerability. This is crucial for building trust. Confusion, embarrassment, depression, and myriad other emotions experienced after a gaming session are all normal, and everyone can benefit from an open and honest discussion on the subject. Not all kinks or fetishes are overtly sexual or must end in orgasm. But sexual experiences and intimacy have a lot to do with our psychological health. Many of us who engage in kinks or fetishes have an emotional connection to it. For us, it’s often a way to process trauma or explore deep, intense emotions in a safe, controlled environment. For others, it’s simply a way to climax creatively. The large sections covering BDSM, kink, and fetish are colorful and full of amazing ways to explore your sexuality and all it has to offer, and the aftercare on offer will keep you feeling great even after your bout is over.
